Do you play chess? or watched people play it? Well, I don't play it but I live with someone who lives and breathes chess. While I am on social media or on WhatsApp chatting away, my husband is playing an online chess with people in Russia or God knows where. He gets so engrossed in it that I have to snatch the phone away when I want his attention. But I have learnt a few things watching him play. Usually, the piece called Pawn creates the first line of defense, and moves one step at a time to win the game. Think about it. Whose pawn are you? are you in control of your destiny or is someone else controlling you? Are you moving to win your own game or are you moving to win someone's else game? When playing the board game, you have to think fast and make your moves. And life is so much like that. Things happen everyday. You may have lost your job or gotten betrayed by loved ones or just have things not working out as you would like them to. So what do you do? Do you stay there and feel sorry for yourself? Beat yourself up over your mistakes and what you could have done better? Well, that is the natural inclination. To wallow and sulk in a corner. But truth is, the longer you stay in that dark place, the harder it will be to pull yourself out of it. What you do is remember that you are not the only one who has ever failed at things. You are not the first one nor the last one to have their heart broken, their dreams shattered or simply humiliated. To name just a few, there is Hillary Clinton. She was betrayed by her husband publicly and I bet you she felt so humiliated. But look at her now, she may be the first woman President of one of the greatest nation in the world. She didn't wither away in her mansion. That takes courage, and so should you adopt that same attitude. Then there is Brian Acton, the guy who worked for Yahoo and had created a career for himself then quit to start his own thing. He would later try get a job at Facebook and Twitter and get rejected. He must have felt bummed out. Anyone would. But he got up and got to working on creating Whats App with an old buddy Jan Koum. And they recently sold it to Facebook for billions of dollars, and he still owns a large stake in it in shares. What a costly mistake it was for Facebook. If he was an employee, anything he created would be under Facebook. That just goes to show that in life, good and bad things will happen but you need to bounce back and get back on the wheel. You can't afford to wallow for too long. Even in chess, wasting time trying to figure your move will get your opponent figuring more clever moves and you will lose eventually. In life, you could lose out to hopelessness. So take out your notebook and figure it out, make your move. Even if it fails, keep moving, keep trying, eventually something gives.
So keep winning, keep shining. You are only as good as your attitude towards your failures.